So , you’re wondering about whether your relationship is worth holding onto? I really can understand that sentiment. Of course , you invest a great deal of time and energy into a relationship, it can be difficult to let go and face the dismaying proposition of beginning over again.
Plus, there’s the fact that you probably love your partner too. Can’t all disagreements just be worked out with a little understanding?
Well, first here are a couple of things to consider:
Is this a constant problem in your relationship? – If you have been having that problem in your relationship for some considerable time now, will getting back together or working through this rough patch do a lot more than just pacify the situation, only to have it erupt again later?
If your relationship is going to stand the test of time, you’re going to need to find tactics correct the difficulty, so that the core issue is looked after. Otherwise, you are just biding time till the problem rears its ugly head again and you are right back where you were to start with.
What is the overall theme of your relationship? – If the tone is marked by feelings of antagonism, bitterness, and negativity, then there really might not be enough mutual respect between you and your better half to justify continuing the relationship.
Robust relationships are built on a foundation of respect and love for one another. If this is not a key ingredient in your relationship, then what’s holding it together? Desperation? Loneliness? Codependency? None of these are sound excuses to stay in a committed relationship.
Do the Both of You Share a Vision for Your Future? – Successful couples also have dreams together and they grow together as they aim for a shared goal. It aids in keeping them on the “same team” rather than as possible enemies.
Perhaps you and your partner are having trouble because you have lost touch with that common dream or because that was not there to start with. Either way, bother to think about if you both have compatible dreams and goals in life. If you do not, then maybe the relationship isn’t intended to be.
Consider these 3 things when asking yourself if your relationship would be saved or if it is better to just move on and start over with someone new. Although the immediate loss of a relationship can leave you feeling grief-stricken, it is at the end of the day better than settling for an unfullfilling relationship that seems like more work than reward.